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Hey everyone, Welcome to the Jim Kleiber show today is july 19th, Tuesday 2022 in the mixed up border, today I wanted to talk about the movie, Top Gun and, finding our limits and challenging our limits. So today I saw the new top gun Maverick movie, which I believe is the sequel to the original top gun movie, which was 20 ish years ago, maybe a little bit longer and I think even longer, maybe 30 years. And one thing if you've never seen the original or the new one to know is that Tom Cruise plays a character named Maverick and he's known for being kind of this hotshot pilot. And one thing I realized in watching the one today, I'm not going to give too much away, but just this idea that Maverick, maybe you know, appropriate for his name, pushes the limits, challenges the limits, finds the limits and just kind of goes a little bit farther and tries to, really, really find where the limit is in terms of performance, in terms of many things really, and, had me reflecting a lot on, one of the things I really liked about running workshops of emotional self defense in person, is finding those limits, trying to help, people and myself find the limits in terms of emotions, in terms of physical fitness, emotional fitness, conflict, communication, really trying to. Explore up to the limits and maybe a little bit beyond, but really dance around those limits and something I noticed in the movie and I think in the previous movie as well as how that can, bump up against what many other people want. I think a lot of, maybe it's not that okay, let me pull pull back. Maybe it's not that other people don't want to challenge the limits or find the limits, maybe that certain people have higher thresholds than others, or want to continue to push the threshold at maybe a more quick pace. And I think for me, I've kind of been that way a lot, I remember taking, a salsa class when I lived in Miami for a summer, and I had just studied in Costa rica before that I came back and I was taking salsa and I think I took it 234 times a week, maybe the lessons, and I wasn't just taking the beginners, I jumped into, I was trying to take as advanced of a class as I possibly could so that I could learn more quickly, and you know, just kind of thrashing in the class and at some point I go, why is this guy so much better at dancing than me? He's you know, two or three years younger than me, And this was early 20s, something this 16 year old, how is he better than me? You know? And oh his parents were professional salsa dancers, that's why he's probably better at dancing salsa than I am. Oh, but I'm still keeping up in a way uh interesting and so for me it was, I'd like to push my limits and to try to Mhm continue to push them and. Again, I don't know if other people don't or if it's more of having different thresholds and different desires for different kind of paces and speed. And so I think that maybe more it that many of us like to challenge our limits in some way or find out what the limits are, but maybe some of us like to live. More as a cliche, more more on the edge and or our edges are pushed the edge so that the edge keeps getting further and further further and further. And so I really appreciated watching that movie. And I think, I wonder if you're out there and you're thinking, you know, whether that resonates with you or not. Um again, I don't know what I loved about running these classes was just I say, running these in the past tense because I haven't run one in a person in a long time. But the idea of letting anyone find their own limits and challenge their own limits at their own pace. Now, I think it becomes a little more difficult when we're in uh whether it's a work relationship or a romantic relationship, something where we rely on the other person marching to the same beat, even dancing salsa relationship with somebody, if we're both not wanting to push the limits, maybe the, the follow doesn't want me to do a dip or doesn't want to do a dip that goes down that far because that person doesn't feel that comfortable and maybe I want to push a little bit farther or a little bit less. Less distant in in terms of something like that. So I don't know, I think a lot of it maybe is just about finding my limits, finding others limits and hopefully they align and hopefully desire to push those limits is aligned and if not how to negotiate. Um and and play and dance with that. Um yeah, I think about it in terms of intimacy, emotional intimacy, you know, how open does somebody want to be? I talked with a friend about this the other day of, you know, somebody reaches out to you and says, oh, how are things, Does a person really want me to tell them how I'm actually feeling or do they just want me to give the I'm alive? Everything is okay enough answer how what's what's the threshold of emotional intimacy that that person desires at that moment? And what do I desire and how far do I want to go? And I think we have these negotiations and so many so many aspects of our lives should especially, and I focus on the communication side a lot. Should I open up and say this? Does a person want me to say this? How far do they want me to go? How close do they want to be with me? How close do I want to be with them? How close do I? You know, I want to be with them now. How close do I want to be with them in the future? And so I think there's so much going on in terms of these negotiations and and dancing and I don't know if this made sense, but I really just wanted to, somehow put this into words and I'll reflect on it more, I'm sure. So top gun finding the limits and yeah, saying how we feel. I don't know. I could throw that at the end of almost any any conclusion. I do. So I will talk to you all tomorrow.
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