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Hello, welcome to another DailyJim it is Monday May 16, Yeah, before midnight this time. So it's technically still that day. Um today I wanted to talk about how a simple shift in perspective can change how we feel. So last night I did not sleep well at all, I went to bed early but did not sleep well, I haven't slept well quite quite a few nights over the last couple of years and I think a lot of the stress is thinking about what am I going to do the next day? What am I gonna do? Am I doing enough to contribute to the world? Am I doing enough to help? Am I doing enough? What what what do I do? I haven't had a very fixed schedule, so that has made it harder in some ways because it gives me the opportunity or curse or burden of figuring out what am I going to do and.
I think for a lot of times it's been okay, well how do I get more emotionally healthy? How do I fix the website? How do I do that? But I switch from thinking about me being more emotionally healthy two just this mindset of emotionally connect with other people, not necessarily other people, but just other things. Me can emotionally connect with me emotionally connect with other humans, emotionally connect with animals, emotionally connect in general, and after having done emotional self defense for so many years or at least focused on it and thinking about it as the framing for a while. This shift perspective today is almost moving to the offense of reaching out. Like this is what I'm actively going to do is reach out and connect and also respond with connection as well, so defensively respond in a way to connect. And I noticed that just by shifting that mentality that framing that mindset today, I took a nap and I slept really well and then I woke up and came down. I felt much more alert and present at dinner, watching the evening news. There was.
A man who was being interviewed, who was the boyfriend of someone who died in the shooting that happened in the mass shooting that happened in buffalo, Where a white man, 18 year old white man, drove up two hours to a grocery store and Being shot and killed like 10 people maybe shot 13 and killed 10, And it was a grocery story in a primarily black neighborhood, and he had planned this out and he was intentionally going to shoot black people, and I watch the little clip of this guy on tv and, he was crying and.
It hit, it hit me really hard.
But not.
I don't know. I think I see so much anger and so much fear that when somebody finally has the courage to show the pain and the sadness, especially on television like that really, really opened me up. So I think it's a combination of shifting into the mindset of wanting to connect with others, and then being ready and almost able to receive that when it happens. I'm curious how I would have responded if I were in a different state if I were thinking about, oh the website or, or even on the reflexive end of, okay, I'm going to focus on my health. Um, so and I noticed going out afterwards, we went around, went out to the store, went out and walked around a little bit and saying hi to somebody walking by looking down and connecting with the dog. Um, connecting. There's this one guy who's riding his bike around and he was playing Beatles songs.
Older black gentleman riding a bicycle that was kind of like modified to look really cool and sexy headlights on it and kind of leaning back, right and blasting, blasting Beatles music in a pretty empty downtown area because it's monday night, you know, so I don't know, I think what amazed me was just shifting that perspective and how that changed just my afternoon in my evening and wondering.
What impact will that have on other people? If I more actively or more more actively seek to connect with others, seek to engage with others? Um, and part of that's just being raw and open and open on my end, but open to receive what's going on their end as well. And how is that going to change me? How is it going to change others? And how would that change our society if more people would actively reach out and connect?
You know, how many more, how many mass shootings could we prevent? How many.
How many moments of grief can we process together? How can we heal if more people would reach out and connect?
So that's where I'm at tonight and I'm gonna let you go because it's beyond my time. But I'll talk with you tomorrow.
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