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Hey everyone welcome to another DailyJim It is Wednesday august 3rd 2022. Ah Today I want I'm tired but to I wanted to talk about.
Never knowing when we're gonna say a final goodbye.
Um It's inspired from two things recently. I was in a pretty, I think intense relationship with someone, the intense kind of we talk all the time, felt really close to each other, laugh, smile and stuff like this. And we decided to take a break from talking and not knowing when we'll talk next. And I think in that there is a certain a certain uncertainty rather in not knowing when we'll talk to each other again.
If win we'll talk to each other again. I think we will, but I don't know when and so it's, there's this uncertainty and not knowing if the goodbye was the final goodbye the last time that I would talk with somebody.
And.
What's today Wednesday? I think that happened was it monday afternoon. Yeah, that was a monday afternoon thing. And then I wake up this morning to a text message from a different friend of mine, separate worlds in a way. And he notified me that a mutual friend of ours had passed away. Okay? And while I didn't know this guy very well who passed um I had dated his younger sister previously and she passed away last year, and the friend who notified me as a very close friend of mine um somebody I've known for many years and.
Yeah. And so the guy that passed away, I was just talking with him Maybe one or 2 weeks ago and he was sending me messages about some new Cryptocurrency thing. And it just seemed a little off in some ways and I was a little worried, you know, after going back and forth I said, listen, I don't click on these links. I don't it doesn't do mysterious or cryptic to me. I don't want to click on it yet. And at some point, I reached out to our our friend and I said, hey, is he okay? And it turns out, I mean, I don't know the full details. He was he was going through some stuff. I think he may have had, manic depression or bipolar, one of those conditions and went to the hospital and I don't last I heard was that he was recovering. But it turns out, maybe not not.
And it just has me reflecting on, I didn't know that would be the last conversation I had with him where I was telling him, I'm not going to click on these links.
And just think about how many people out there that I know. Um and I'm sure maybe your similar people that we know on the internet or people that we know from previous parts of our lives. Maybe we lived in one place because we went to college or maybe we had a job in one place where we met these different people and we no longer keep in very close contact with them or we may not have very intricate links with them. So maybe we know them, but we don't know too many other people in their lives. And I was just thinking and reflecting on the, the sadness I feel that in the fear frankly that if something were to happen to some of these people I still care about, I may never even here, I may never find out had something happened to them.
So yeah, it's just just reflecting on reflecting on it a lot. This idea of, saying goodbye and being open to not knowing what's going to happen at the same time, not knowing if a regular conversation is going to be a final goodbye.
And trying to be okay with that. But also just settling into the helplessness. I think of something like that. Maybe it can be empowering too, but right now it feels kind of helpless where it's just yeah, I don't know what's gonna happen. I don't know if it's gonna be the the last chance that we have to talk, suppose all life is like that, but maybe maybe for our own psyche, it's better not to think about it all the time. So yeah, I think.
Ah I don't know, maybe the key is to just try to express the love and the gratitude that I have for people while while I have the opportunity, it seems very cliche and yet I think nowadays, because it's so easy to communicate with people because we have so many options to do so that.
Maybe, I don't know, maybe we can get better at or I can get better at just saying, how much I feel about somebody and more, more than anything, how much I really care about the people around me and the people that aren't even around me anymore but I still care about them. I'm afraid to do it in a way. Maybe you would be too, I don't know what you're feeling but this idea of expressing affection because we don't know, if we're going to have that chance to do it again.
Alright. I think I'm gonna go to sleep and cry, cry and sleep. I don't know. They seem to go together these days alright, I'm doing okay just to let you know it's just I feel sad, it's okay to feel sad and, yeah grateful that my friend let me know and hope you're all doing well and love to talk about this with you more so take care.
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